Not too long ago, a social media group I belong to started a gratitude project. One of the members posted information about being down in the dumps for a period of time and that they really wanted to shake it off and focus on the positive around them. They asked our little chat group if we’d like to help for the month and everyone agreed to be supportive and try to post three things to feel grateful about each day.
At first, it was so easy. Everyone posted about their family listing their dad, mom, daughter, son, parents, and grandparents and so on.
The next part was still easy for me. There came the obvious listing of a roof over my head, food on the dinner table and good health.
Then it got a bit more specific as people gave thanks for their job or boss or coworkers. Others felt blessed by the puppy that runs to great them at night or the car that starts in the morning.
Then it got hard. It wasn’t always so easy to find the obvious. Sometimes, a grumpy day was just that. The boss was mad, the kids misbehaved, the dog messed on the carpet and the traffic was horrible. Any day like that only meant you needed to dig deeper.
The deeper I had to dig, the more I realized how lucky I am and how much there is to be grateful for.
There was that cool breeze on the patio this morning while I sipped my coffee. There was a kind nurse at the doctor’s office that really listened to my complaint and made me feel so much better. There was a small funny moment in the kitchen shared with my husband at the end of a busy day and we laughed and laughed.
Funny thing is that the project of listing three daily gratitudes really started to affect my day. I first noticed that it was easier to get that hard task done. As I realized how lucky I was in so many ways, it made it really hard to throw-up roadblocks to success.
Instead of thinking “That’s impossible. That’s too hard. It’s too much to take on,” I’d find myself thinking that if the most I have to complain about is that a task is too hard, then I’ve sure got a lucky life so I just need to get on with it.
Soon some of my gratitudes at the end of the day involved being thankful for starting and completing something on my list.
All this making of lists and it leading to successes made me realize how tied together gratitude, attitude and success are.
Here are some of the ways the combination of gratitude, attitude and success become a winning formula.
No matter if you are a solo entrepreneur, a sales person for a company or a team player in the corporate world, confidence is key to success. Someone who is confident speaks with authority. Everyone turns to them for advice. Their word is taken for gold. They present a strong front. Their physical posture is upright with their head held high and are easy at making direct eye contact with you. It’s not something that they practice or try; it comes naturally from being confident in themselves and their knowledge.
The more you practice gratitude, the more your attitude changes and the more confident you become. Each day, you realize the large and small things that fill your world with wonder. Each of these affirmations make you realize that you are indeed loved, smart, kind, creative and so on. These reminders fill you with a natural confidence.
Gratitude is an Attraction
I’ve witnessed when others talk about someone who is filled with gratitude. I hear “She is so nice. She is so upbeat. She is so genuinely happy to be there that she makes everyone else happy too.”
It’s true. Gratitude is an attraction, a magnetic force. If you want to surround yourself with happy, confident, successful people, then change your attitude to one of gratitude.
Tell others that you are happy to see them, happy to work with them, grateful for their help and so on. The more you mean it, the more people will want to be with you, work with you and work for you. Everyone wants a happy leader.
Building Team Work
Everyone has to work as a team – even if you are a sole proprietor, whose team may be you and your client. Or it could be you and co-workers. Or, it could be you and other community or civic group leaders. Did you realize your family is a kind of team?
No matter what kind of team you are on or who is on your team, attitude is a key to how well things work out for you. We’ve all been at meeting with someone who is the whining, complaining type. They start gripping about this and that and pretty soon the next person is nodding their head and agreeing. From one to another, the negativism spreads. It infiltrates the group and pretty soon every idea gets shot down by the team.
Imagine the positive spin attitude combined with gratitude give to a team environment. Suppose that you arrive with a mindset that you are grateful that each person is on your team? What if you were thankful for and embraced each one’s unique talents and contributions so that they wanted to put their best foot forward for you? If you presented a can-do, positive attitude that the team will be successful at their goal, it will happen.
Opening the Door to Creative Solutions
Practicing gratitude truly changes the mental pictures you have of a situation. When presented with a problem, we tend to gravitate toward all the reasons that there is not a workable solution. We get so focused on the reasons we can’t fix it and the issues that must be overcome that solutions get pushed aside.
In focusing on problem solving with an air of gratitude, you begin by looking at all the positive aspects to any situation. Then you explore creative solutions. It’s really hard to move out of the negative mindset so approaching problems solving with a great attitude opens the door to creative answers.
The Gratitude Attitude Stuck With Me
Funny thing is that at the end of the month of listing gratitudes with my social media group, no one wanted to quit. It moved beyond the one person who had asked for help. As a group, they said they wanted to do it again the next month and the next. I love reading what the others share. Sometimes they remind me of little things I missed in my own life that someone is thankful for. At other times, someone is thankful for an obstacle overcome, a health threat that didn’t come to be or the comfort of friends when a loved one passes. Those gratitude posts only remind me more of the many reasons I have to be thankful and to be as successful as I can at my endeavors.
As the saying goes, we’ve only got so much time. Let’s make the most of it.
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